Gradually the holiday begins hesitantly. To the south or carefully in the Netherlands. There at the campsite you should enjoy the environment, but especially the family and each other. And it is precisely with the latter that it often goes wrong. It is not without reason that there is a peak in divorce after the summer holidays.

High expectations
Relationship expert Rika Ponnet explains in Knack magazine why this is. “Whether people leave for a campsite or a boutique hotel, they have one thing in common: expectations are high. The month of June is very busy in many families: deadlines have to be met, there are parent meetings, farewell parties and so on. Everyone is tired and has People are saving for this and are looking forward to time for their partner and family. They can already see it all: enjoying that holiday home, while the children play in the pool and they read a book with a cocktail in hand Unfortunately, the reality is usually different. Many people already get stressed when they pack their bags, and then the long car or plane journey has yet to start. There is always something disappointing on site: the breakfast, the view or the mattresses. people have a feeling of decompression They step from a very hectic life into total idleness That seems great, but it can lead to restlessness, headaches and even withdrawal differences. jnselen: they keep scrolling through their smartphone, out of habit. This often leads to frustration and quarrels. I regularly hear couples say that they had a clattering argument in the first week of vacation, often about something small. Fortunately, they usually make up for it afterwards, so that they can still enjoy it.’

But that doesn’t always work. September is a busy month in her practice, says Ponnet. “Many couples sign up for couples therapy after the big holidays. And you can also see this trend in the divorce statistics. That is not illogical. Many couples who are having difficulties start living side by side. They both work hard, and keep a They have a family running. So they spend little time really together. On vacation they suddenly sit on each other’s lips 24 hours a day. That can be very confronting, because they notice that they actually have nothing to say to each other anymore.”

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go on vacation. “Vacation is important precisely because it is a way to slow down and view your life from a distance. One decides he wants to put his career on the back burner, the other wants to end his relationship. And that is fine, otherwise that would have happened.”

Bron (nen): Knack