The home is the physical space in which moments of rest, relaxation and conviviality are shared. It is a site that took on greater importance during the coronavirus pandemic, because it became a refuge for people during confinement.
For the clinical psychologist and therapist Raquel Melgar, the well-being of each person includes physical, mental, social and emotional health. “It has a lot to do with the ability to act. In the way we think we say and speak. In other words, an internal coherence that makes you feel good about yourself, ”he says.
Well-being, he says, in family terms adds an extra challenge, which is the ability to be flexible and understand. “It is the ability to express what I feel without affecting, accusing and / or attacking the other while I take responsibility for my emotions and my actions,” he adds.
Well-being became more important during the pandemic, in which learning to communicate became an essential challenge. Also, identifying what your priority is is critical.
“Negotiating what I can and want to do or what is beyond my possibilities to see to what extent we can get closer to an ideal, in which all members of the household commit to respect, understand and, above all, cooperate to achieve common goals ”, remarks the clinical psychologist and therapist.
In that sense, he affirms that one of the challenges will be to identify as a team. “If at any time any of the family members have different objectives, they enter a conflict zone. And here again we have the opportunity to grow ”, he says.
On the other hand, he affirms that if he feels that he cannot alone, he can ask for help and work it in a process of personal and family therapy. “This will allow us to recognize the role of each actor in that situation that we live from fear, pain, guilt or resentment,” adds Melgar.
Cultivating positive habits at home helps create a climate of well-being within the family. For Melgar, one of the fundamental practices is learning to talk about emotions, thoughts and sensations.
“Let us remember that everything that is spoken is no longer acted upon, allow ourselves a space as a family in which we can say every day, what made me angry? What made me feel afraid? What made me feel happy? And most importantly, what things can I be thankful for today? ”, he expresses.
He affirms that doing this practice daily as a family replaces many hours wasted with negative thoughts and will help to get to know all the members of the family a little more.
Also, another healthy habit is to identify the thought that is moving your emotions. Also check if what you think happens at that moment. “Many times we grieve and conflict thinking about something projected in the future, which does not necessarily have to be this way and that especially at this moment is not happening,” he adds.
To complete the exercise, he says, you can check if that thought that makes you anticipate negative situations coincides with your wishes and goals for the future.
“The benefit that this practice brings is to locate ourselves in the here and now, to empower ourselves, since we become directors and scriptwriters of our own film and above all that we can practice it at home”, concludes the clinical psychologist and therapist.
Mental and family well-being is essential for a fraternal life at home. Achieving it is a task for everyone and whose benefit will also be for all members of the family.
Raquel Melgar Tavera has a degree in Clinical Psychology and a therapist. He completed diplomas in Higher Education and Personnel Management, specializing in Biodecodage. He was a teacher in the Career of Psychology at the Franz Tamayo University. He worked for the European Union and participated in research for the United Nations. She was in charge of the Generational Gender and Family Directorate of the municipality of Cochabamba.
Well-being at home is essential and begins with each one. We share some tips that can help you strengthen harmony and peace. 1 Enjoy.
Staying active is essential. A sedentary life is negative for physical and mental health. Lack of physical movement can lead you to feel unhappy and thus far from desired well-being. 2 Priority.
It is important to learn to enjoy the simple. Focus on the activities you do, get the most out of each moment, and you’ll soon be able to focus on what really matters. 3 Space.
The environment in which you spend the most time is a subject to pay attention to. Therefore, it is important to take into account aspects such as lighting. A dimly lit place will tire the eyes and mind. Opting for natural lighting is the most recommended, as it renews energy. 4 Nature.
Create your little green corner. Plants do not only fulfill a decorative function. Having certain types of these in the different spaces of the house provides benefits for both health and mood. 5 Balance.
This aspect is essential. Living in an orderly environment generates benefits not only for physical health, but also for psychological health.